If you find yourself struggling to establish better sleep for you and your young child then it may be worth considering making some changes when it comes to sleep time and throughout the day and also how you manage the your child’s awakenings.
Unfortunately, a large percentage of parents report various sleep challenges, from resistance to bed or nap time, frequent night awakening, early rising and short naps, to name a few. Although sleep is a natural process, so many force factors have an influence on your child’s sleeping pattern.
Here are 7 possible reasons why your child may not sleep well for you:
- Your bedtime may be attempted when your child is already overtired. This can result in a chemical response of cortisol and adrenaline to the system that has two main functions: Firstly it may make it hard for your child to achieve sleep, resulting in a resistance to sleep when you address bedtime, meaning that it can take anywhere from 1 to 3 hours to actually get your child to sleep at bedtime and secondly the hormonal secretion can make it hard for your child to stay asleep-causing frequent night awakenings outside of biological waking for feeds, reassurance and transitioning through sleep phases.
Consider your child’s mood and behaviour before you are commencing the bedtime routine. If they are obviously signalling that they may be tired with intense eye rubs and yawns, agitated, cranky or increasingly upset, or perhaps hyper and entertaining, then it is likely that an earlier onset of bedtime may be suitable here. Sometimes, adjusting bedtime forward, as little as 20 minutes can have a significant, positive impact on the overnight sleep duration.
- Your child may be getting too much or not enough day time sleep. Establish how much sleep your child may require based on their age group and aim to get closer to the suggested amount.
The closer you get in achieving their average sleep need suggestion then the potential to stay in a deeper night time sleep for you increases.
Conversely, if your child is napping far in excess of the suggested sleep need then consider curtailing the amount that they are getting, in an effort to re-distribute the sleep into night time. Don’t be tempted to limit the day sleep far below the amounts outlined in my books The Baby Sleep Solution and All About The Baby Sleep Solution as that intervention may initially improve sleep and then reverse and increase your night time activity.
- A nap imbalance can also have a pernicious impact on night time sleep. Your child may be getting the close to their day sleep quota but it is not in sync with their natural body clock. The intervals of wakefulness between nap periods can sometimes be too long resulting in some children under 8 months of age missing a crucial 3rd nap and in some older children being awake too long before bedtime.
Furthermore, some children may have too long a nap in the morning and as a result not enough in the afternoon.
Most children from 8 months to15-18 months sleep very well when they are having 2 naps per day with the second nap of the time being of equal duration or longer than the 1st nap and a wakeful period not exceeding 3-4 hours before bedtime. This seems to create the best nap gap dynamic which in turns helps for a better night time sleep to emerge.
Once your young child is ready to have one nap per day then the recommended wakeful period, before bedtime, ideally should not exceed 4-5 hours ensuring that overtiredness does not unnecessarily interrupt your child’s night time sleep.
- Your child may not being getting enough to eat and drink throughout the day or they may be getting enough, but at the wrong time for the body, which can also result in night waking as they don’t feel full.
Once solid food is established, children benefit from 3 balanced meals with 2-3 healthy snacks and an age appropriate milk intake, further ensuring that your child is hydrated. Filling up the calories in advance of sleep time does not generally improve sleeping patterns, so avoid “extra” meals, but make sure that your child has eaten enough for their age group throughout the day, with many benefitting from a conventional evening meal (protein and carb) at dinner time about 5-5.30pm. Additionally, over relying on milk at bedtime and indeed overnight, when it is no longer a required, may also impair the day time appetite for a varied and balanced food intake that in turn results in night time activity.
- Your child may not be getting enough outside activity and fresh air or exposure to bright and natural light. An hour a day is the recommendation- so 30 minutes mid morning and again in the mid afternoon, fills this need. If your child is not yet walking ensure they are getting plenty of age appropriate exercise, play with them outside and encourage plenty of floor time. Your active toddler can walk and explore with you. For the days when you can’t get outside; spend play time close to windows, so that natural light is meeting your child’s face.
- Too much exposure to television and electronic media. With studies consistently supporting the relationship between TV and electronics and a negative impact on sleep patterns, parents may find that just a simple adjustment of restricting the use throughout the day and more significantly in the final few hours before bedtime; your child may achieve sleep with greater ease, stay asleep for longer and also receive a better quality of sleep as well which promotes more day time sleep and in turn restful sleep.
- You do not have sleep inducing environment and corresponding sleep-promoting bedtime routine. The optimal sleep environment is adequately dark without too many distractions or stimulation. The use of blackout blinds is helpful and the avoidance of external hall and bathroom lights outside of the bedroom help promote the sleep hormone melatonin production. Consider a night light to help ensure that the room is not scarily pitch black, and that your child can feel safe. Make sure that you are providing a simple, consistent pre-sleep ritual before bedtime, in the bedroom where your child will sleep. Studies continue to demonstrate the importance of regular sleep times along with repetitive sleep practises. Allocate 20 minutes for a wind-down period before your child is due to go to sleep. Provide low impact, high sensory-cuddles, rubbing, massage, story time activity, in the same order and same way each night to help your child ingrain a positive sleep association which in turn helps to promote better overall sleep hygiene. If you are using music or white noise, make sure it is turned off before your child goes to sleep or it stays on for the entire sleep period.
Don’t be disappointed if you do not see immediate results, it may take time for the benefits to emerge from making initial changes, continue working away at improving and adjusting how your child’s sleep is approached, stay patient and committed as well as flexible to your child’s needs.
Lucy Wolfe, is a sleep consultant, Author of the bestselling book The Baby Sleep Solution and All About The Baby Sleep Solution, creator of “Sleep Through”, a natural bed and body sleep spray and relaxing rub, and mum of four. She runs a private sleep consulting practice where she provides knowledge, expertise and valuable support to families across the country. See www.sleepmatters.ie |087 2683584 or |firstname.lastname@example.org