Lucy Wolfe’s guidance, support and constructive observations have completely changed all of our days and nights. I know I contacted Lucy out of emotional and physical desperation, in the middle of the night. All of my mom friends either told me that the sleepless nights would pass once solids were introduced / teething was over/ once she was crawling or walking etc. etc. or advised sleep training (but warned me how emotionally traumatic it was going to be). When I contacted, I tried to not get my hopes up even though my friend highly recommended her personalized support. I was filled with shame and embarrassment about needing to get help for baby sleep. I will admit I was still skeptical after our initial meeting with Lucy, how could a young baby who would awake as soon as the rocking or breastfeeding would stop be able to sleep for hours without this? After all, I had resorted to sleeping upright so my baby could nurse and therefore stay asleep for as long as possible at night. This quickly became unsustainable when my body ached each evening – ordering a tailbone pillow, and Lucy’s remark that this practice was potentially dangerous, were the red flags change needed to happen.

I appreciated the fact that Lucy did not overpromise anything, and we never felt judged (despite how ridiculous some of our methods to get our baby to sleep became). She was very clear a lot of work was needed to structure the day and break the sleep crutch associations in order to help our baby independently fall asleep. This involved keeping detailed notes about sleep times and feeds, track of wake windows, timing routines and committing to lots of activities to help our baby adapt to bigger cot, own room, being on her own, etc. Lucy’s approach to the actual sleep training was therefore readily grasped by our baby without as much difficulty as some of the stories that were shared with me about Ferber, cry it out, etc.

We are both now so much more rested and enjoying being parents instead of feeling broken and hopeless. I especially feel like I’ve come out of a shell to be able to feel like a proper mother.